November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. It begins the 16 Days of Activism through December 10. Domestic Violence Awareness Month in the United States is October; safety and support matter all year.
Abuse can involve physical harm, threats, humiliation, sexual coercion, controlling money, isolating someone or monitoring their phone and location. You do not have to wait for physical violence to ask for support. Abuse is never the survivor’s fault, and help is available to people of all genders.
Three ways to offer support
- Listen without blame. Let the person decide what they feel comfortable sharing.
- Ask what would help them feel safer. Respect their choices rather than pressuring them to leave or confronting the person causing harm.
- Offer to connect them with a trained advocate for personalized safety planning and local resources, when it is safe to do so.
A private conversation starter“You deserve respect and safety. Would you like help finding someone you can talk to privately?” Ask only when it is safe and private; a person does not need to disclose their experience to use these resources.
Confidential support
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or visit the website to chat with a live advocate. Support is available 24/7. Message and data rates may apply.
Talk with a trained advocate ↗
Find support in your NC county ↗
The North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence lists local providers; the coalition does not provide direct services. Available services vary by agency.
Digital safety: Internet and phone activity may be monitored, and browsing history cannot always be erased completely. If possible, use a safer device that the person causing harm cannot access. In immediate danger, call 911 if you can do so safely.
Office on Women’s Health: Signs of abuse ↗
United Nations: November 25 observance ↗